15 Things Your Husband Wishes You Would Do More Often

IT'S not just compliments and sex he's hoping for, though, let's face it, he wouldn't mind a little more of those too.

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Tell him how awesome he is.

Of course he's not going to complain when anyone says something nice about him (who would?), but hearing it from you means more, and experts say it's a man's number-one relationship need. "The most important thing husbands crave from their partners is appreciation and approval—but it's amazing how many of us are accustomed to telling our spouses what they're doing wrong without balancing that out with positive feedback," says relationship expert Andrea Syrtash, author of Cheat on Your Husband (With Your Husband). So for every time you whine about his football obsession or forgetting to take out the trash, remember to high-five him for picking up the kids from soccer or tell him how kickass his work presentation looked. It'll get you big-time brownie points, not to mention a very smiley husband.

Let him get a little vulnerable.

Alright, we admit it: The word "vulnerable" sounds all kinds of self-help-book cheesy. But until recently, it wasn't really a thing for men to embrace their soft sides, failures, or weaknesses. "In our society, men don't traditionally get to cry or admit they're feeling scared or hurt, and may feel shame because these things aren't 'manly,'" says Berman. "That's an unfair thing to ask of anyone, and leads to inauthenticity and broken communication." Encourage him to open up about something from his past, and let him know it's cool for him to always express how he's feeling—not just when he's playing the role of caretaker.

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Initiate sex.

You're busy, overworked, exhausted. Girl, we feel you. But it may actually make you feel better if you get a little action, and he'll be on top of the world if you're the one to get things going. "Sex isn't just a physical need for men," says couples therapist Jill Vermeire. "It's also their way of feeling connected to you." She suggests just going for it—once a month could be a good goal—simply by sitting on his lap or tugging off his shirt. He'll get the message pretty quick...and be all sorts of stoked to continue.

Compliment how well he's balancing everything.

Ladies are pros at balancing everything, but give your guy some props because he's likely busy AF at work, too. In fact, maybe give him extra props: Research shows a woman's brain is built to be better at multi-tasking than a man's, so it's that much harder for him to juggle work life, home life, and a social life. And since you know he needs those appreciative words now, feel free to throw a few of 'em his way to show him you've noticed how hard he's working.

Admire him in comparison to others.

Yes, guys love it when you praise them. But can you guess what they love even more? When you praise them in a way that makes them feel like there's no one else you'd want (or could even imagine) doing it instead. "Men want to know that they are valued and irreplaceable," says Berman. As silly as it might sound to tell him there's no one who makes a better cup of coffee—even your favorite Starbucks barista—he'll appreciate knowing all the ways he ranks #1 to you.

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Thank him, thank him, thank him.

There's not much your husband loves more (okay, except for getting frisky) than hearing those two magic little words. "Gratitude is big," says Berman. "Many times we don't realize how much partners crave appreciation, even if it's for something he does all the time. Thanking him for taking out the trash or being a great dad means so much to him." So start paying attention to the little stuff: He picked up milk. Thanks! He put the kids to bed. Thanks! He gave you the last bite of dessert. Thanks! Bonus: He'll probably start showing you a little more gratitude, too.

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