IT'S not just compliments
and sex he's hoping for, though, let's face it, he wouldn't mind a little more
of those too.
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Tell him how awesome he
is.
Of course he's not going to
complain when anyone says something nice about him (who would?), but hearing it
from you means more, and experts say it's a man's number-one relationship need.
"The most important thing husbands crave from their partners is
appreciation and approval—but it's amazing how many of us are accustomed to
telling our spouses what they're doing wrong without balancing that out with
positive feedback," says relationship expert Andrea Syrtash, author of
Cheat on Your Husband (With Your Husband). So for every time you whine about
his football obsession or forgetting to take out the trash, remember to
high-five him for picking up the kids from soccer or tell him how kickass his
work presentation looked. It'll get you big-time brownie points, not to mention
a very smiley husband.
Let him get a little vulnerable.
Alright, we admit it: The
word "vulnerable" sounds all kinds of self-help-book cheesy. But
until recently, it wasn't really a thing for men to embrace their soft sides,
failures, or weaknesses. "In our society, men don't traditionally get to
cry or admit they're feeling scared or hurt, and may feel shame because these things
aren't 'manly,'" says Berman. "That's an unfair thing to ask of
anyone, and leads to inauthenticity and broken communication." Encourage
him to open up about something from his past, and let him know it's cool for
him to always express how he's feeling—not just when he's playing the role of
caretaker.
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Initiate sex.
You're busy, overworked,
exhausted. Girl, we feel you. But it may actually make you feel better if you get
a little action, and he'll be on top of the world if you're the one to get
things going. "Sex isn't just a physical need for men," says couples
therapist Jill Vermeire. "It's also their way of feeling connected to
you." She suggests just going for it—once a month could be a good
goal—simply by sitting on his lap or tugging off his shirt. He'll get the
message pretty quick...and be all sorts of stoked to continue.
Compliment how well he's
balancing everything.
Ladies are pros at
balancing everything, but give your guy some props because he's likely busy AF
at work, too. In fact, maybe give him extra props: Research shows a woman's
brain is built to be better at multi-tasking than a man's, so it's that much
harder for him to juggle work life, home life, and a social life. And since you
know he needs those appreciative words now, feel free to throw a few of 'em his
way to show him you've noticed how hard he's working.
Admire him in comparison
to others.
Yes, guys love it when you
praise them. But can you guess what they love even more? When you praise them
in a way that makes them feel like there's no one else you'd want (or could
even imagine) doing it instead. "Men want to know that they are valued and
irreplaceable," says Berman. As silly as it might sound to tell him
there's no one who makes a better cup of coffee—even your favorite Starbucks
barista—he'll appreciate knowing all the ways he ranks #1 to you.
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Thank him, thank him,
thank him.
There's not much your
husband loves more (okay, except for getting frisky) than hearing those two
magic little words. "Gratitude is big," says Berman. "Many times
we don't realize how much partners crave appreciation, even if it's for
something he does all the time. Thanking him for taking out the trash or being
a great dad means so much to him." So start paying attention to the little
stuff: He picked up milk. Thanks! He put the kids to bed. Thanks! He gave you
the last bite of dessert. Thanks! Bonus: He'll probably start showing you a
little more gratitude, too.
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